Warning, Tagging and Advising
Please see this post for why I have difficulty, as a queer allo-aro, with many of the aromantic community’s cultural norms around warning for content. This is my best attempt to accommodate as many norms as possible while trying to minimise the damage done to me as a content creator.
For reblogged and non-original content on the @aroworlds Tumblr, I will add categorisation and advisories via tags. Common tags include:
- Names of aromantic identities
- Variant pride flags (usually referenced by two colours)
- Problematic language use (eg: ableist, amatonormative, heterosexist)
- The nature of the post in question (art, fiction, poetry, fancontent)
- The name of the post author (see below)
For original content on Tumblr, WordPress and Patreon, I will provide an in-post content advisory directly underneath the header. Tumblr and WordPress posts may include additional tags. I do not provide warning tags on Patreon.
I am a physically, mentally and neurodevelopmentally disabled creator. Tagging, when the aro community is yet to develop a clear, consistent standard in what, when and how we warn in general aromantic tags and spaces, is a living nightmare for me as an autistic. Please expect an imperfect mastery of this, as the attempt often drives me to panic attacks.
On Romance and Romantic Content
I have a fair sense of the difference between (Western, highly neuronormative) romantic behaviours and my own needs and desires in relationships with other humans. I do struggle, however, to distinguish between autistic-favourable romance and platonic or queerplatonic demonstrations of affection or intimacy. Additionally, allo-aros can perform many (if not all) behaviours (Western, neuronormative) society codes as romantic in platonic-and-sexual ways. In other words: what is and isn’t romantic comes down to individual perception.
While the need to protect the sex and romance repulsed (and those repulsed by behaviours associated with either experience) in aromantic spaces is important, it’s exceptionally difficult to issue meaningful blanket warnings for romance. Warnings will be based on specific content, not on my judgement or guess as to whether some people find certain behaviours to be romantic or romantic-coded.
Content for Which I Won’t Warn
I won’t provide content advisories for mentions of sexual orientation, sexual attraction identities, allosexuality or sexual attraction. (Please note that sexual attraction isn’t the same thing as sexual experience. I will not contribute to the sexualisation of allosexual identities by treating them as equivalent.) Posts will be tagged as the identity in question, using the #aromantic and pansexual, #aromantic and asexual format.
Allo-aro content will be additionally tagged as #alloaro and #allosexual aromantic in addition to the above. Aro-ace content will be additionally tagged as #aroace.
I don’t warn or tag for use of the word queer. I am a queer author of queer fiction in a country where it is common for queers to use queer to describe ourselves and our queer community. I am no longer warning for the use of the word that is my own identity.
I also don’t warn for mentions of the following:
- Sex work
- Swearing (if words aren’t slurs or based in hatred)
I do use the tag #physical intimacy as a catch-all, but I will not warn for mentions that don’t contain further elaboration, description or detail. Please keep in mind that I am an aro who experiences attraction and writes about attraction. My blogs will not be suitable for aros who need to avoid all references to all behaviours suggestive of attraction.
Advisories: Depiction Tags
These tags are used to indicate the depiction of concepts or terms that people may prefer to blacklist.
Please be aware that this list of content is specific to the aromantic community. It will include content for which other communities don’t commonly warn.
These include, but are not limited to:
- Ableist language
- Abuse and assault
- Alloaro antagonism
- Aro antagonism
- Explicit sexual references
- Familial abuse
- Non explicit sexual references
- Physical intimacy
- Romance negative language
- Romance repulsion
- Sex negative language
- Sex repulsion
- Suicidal ideation
Non-Explicit Sexual Content
My use of the #alloaro and #allosexual aromantic tags will include casual sex mentions and non-explicit sexual content and references. In other words, I use them to mark the depiction of allosexuality as shaped by aromanticism.
I have the tag #non explicit sexual references for circumstances when I’m not discussing allo-aro experiences.
I tag every post by the name of its author.
I’m happy to have conversations about not promoting or signal boosting people who are harmful or hateful, but if it’s just a case of your disliking someone, I ask that you please just blacklist their tag.
This blog is run by a physically-disabled aro who is limited in making content fully accessible. For this reason, both the WordPress and Tumblr versions of this blog will not be accessible to all disabled followers, particularly with regard to image descriptions and post length.
I am a verbose, wordy autistic, often prone to repetition. I have been bullied, harassed and abused because of my autistic way of speaking and writing–for not saying things concisely and simply. I do break up long paragraphs, vary my sentences and put very long posts under read more cuts/tags, but I often create posts longer than a thousand words. Please don’t ask me to be more concise, as much as you may need this from me. I can’t be.
(I generally cut hundreds of words and whole paragraphs from my pieces before hitting “post”. At times I don’t explain things as clearly as I should because I am so anxious about trying to limit post length.)
Please note that on Tumblr I rarely put posts under a read more cut unless they’re very long: they won’t get read otherwise, and there’s the risk of losing the content should the blog be deleted. I always tag for long posts (#extremely long post) so they can be blacklisted if necessary, and I encourage people in blacklisting whatever tags they need for their comfort and ease of access.
Because I have chronic hand, finger and shoulder pain, because my communication style means throwing hundreds of words at the keyboard, and because I get asked many questions on multiple blogs, I do not have the ability to both speak how is natural to me and add image descriptions to other people’s content. For this reason, my blogs will not be accessible for people who use screen-readers.
Any content on the @aroworlds Tumblr or WordPress sites that isn’t described will be tagged #undescribed or #undescribed images.
Described content includes:
- My original and self-promotional posts as K. A. Cook
- My book covers
- My Aro Worlds banners and images
- My own stock images, flag edits and art
Undescribed content includes:
- Follower-submitted artwork and visual content, unless it is described by the submitter
- All reblogged content from another Tumblr user, unless it is described by someone else from whom I can reblog
- All images in the aro-spec artist profiles
- All videos